Prayer for the Herring family

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My heart is heavy and I feel so sad for my PKE brother Tom Herring during this time of loss. 

God didn’t promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way.


Prayer of St. Francis of Assisi

Lord, make me an instrument of Your Peace;

Where there is hatred, let me sow Love;

Where there is injury, pardon;

Where there is doubt, faith;

Where there is despair, hope;

Where there is darkness, light;

Where there is sadness, joy.


O Divine Master, grant that I may seek not so much to be consoled, as to console; 

to be understood as to understand; 

to be loved as to love; 

for it is in giving that we receive; 

it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;

and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life. Amen.

One thought on “Prayer for the Herring family

    lydo responded:
    December 3, 2008 at 9:00 am

    Note from Tom:

    To my dear friends,

    I have so much to say, yet find it difficult to convert my thoughts and feelings into words. (Though short, this email has taken hours to write) At this moment, I won’t speak of my feelings of Kyle, but I will say that this last week has opened my eyes to many things. I’d thought I’d take a moment to share some of these insights with you.

    First, our society, seems obsessed with a need to look for the dark story. We teach our children to be cautious of strangers (with good reason), while our news is riddled with reports of people who have committed heinous acts. But the reality is, lurking behind nearly every door is a compassionate family willing to open their hearts to a person in need. My family has been bombarded with acts of kindness by so many people, including many we hardly know, and this has renewed our faith in mankind.

    My eyes have been opened to the impact we can have on the world around us. When we touch someone we leave an impression – for good or bad. I was amazed at how many people Kyle touched in a positive way; even in death Kyle’s presence will be felt by other families. How cool is that? I will try to leave positive impressions from this point forward.

    Time does not heal all wounds. Time might work fine for a cut or bruise, but is useless for the type of wound felt by the loss we suffered. Compassion and love, however, work wonders. Rick Gibson told me he thought that the grief I felt would be relieved through others – as though they were assuming the pain from me. I think he’s on to something.

    Don’t focus too much on the future. For me it is painful, but regardless of your state of mind, dwelling on the future, at the expense of the present, is a waste of precious time.

    Speaking of things that are precious, I’ve relearned that it is imperative to know your life’s priorities and to remind yourself of them regularly – even share them with someone. It’s way to easy to get caught up with the day to day STUFF that is often inconsistent with who you are and what you want in life.

    Mary Ellen has an amazing thought. We were given a gift for 19 years. A gift that was ours alone. We need to focus on the gift and not our loss.

    I’m not writing this as a lecture. In fact,I’m writing this more for me than you. I’m selfish that way. 🙂 But my thoughts are honest and hopefully of some use to you.

    Thank you all for the love and support you’ve given me and my family. You’ve helped us all immeasurably and we will remember your kindness always.


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